You love somebody greatly but the other person doesn’t reciprocate your affections in any way. Or after you have stayed together for a while with another person, they choose to leave. Any failure in love and dating can sap a person’s strength.
It kills something within and the defeat makes another attempt look terribly troublesome. Can life not be carried on after such defeats? Why get discouraged and blame your fate? Why lower self-esteem? Why do all that self-beating? The winner is the one who gets up after falling again and again.
It isn’t easy to grit your teeth and bear the agony piercing your heart. What should ideally be done? Analyze why the relationship failed not to wallow in self pity but to make sure that you can avoid such mistakes in the future. But if you come to the conclusion that you can say objectively that it wasn’t your fault then just forgive and forget because it is not part of the past and it is time to move on.
To do this, one must first learn to look at the past dispassionately. The next step is to reenergize yourself, find something you like doing and channel your energy there and before you know it you’ll be almost good as new. Keep your mind busy and avoid lingering bitterness, thinking about past failure will only bring more pain. Think about all of the good days that are waiting for you. Think about a future which will be terribly bright. Most importantly have faith that there is someone out there for you to love and who will also reciprocate it.
Just take your time, don’t’ rush, but don’t linger to long in a state of misery. Follow the earlier recommendations and before you know it, you’ll be good as new or even better than before.